I love it, love it when someone manages to put their finger on a phenomenon that’s been bugging me for ages, but which has always eluded definition.
Mark Schmitt at the Decembrist does just that with his post on “Miss America conservatives”:
I’m tired of giving quasi-conservatives credit for what I call Miss America compassion (I’ll explain in a minute). Smith’s son’s suicide led him to support more funding for suicide prevention and for mental health care generally. Great — my life has been affected by suicide also, so I’m all for that. Similarly, Senator Pete Domenici’s daughter’s mental illness made him an advocate for mandating equitable treatment of mental and physical well-being in health insurance, a cause in which he was joined by Paul Wellstone. Again, I’m all for it, and I have no doubt that Domenici was at least as personally sincere and driven about it as Wellstone, and watching the two of them pair up on this cause and learn to work together was a good example for the potential of democratic institutions to create understanding.
But what has always bothered me about such examples is that their compassion seems so narrowly and literally focused on the specific misfortune that their family encountered. Having a child who suffers from mental illness would indeed make one particularly passionate about funding for mental health, sure. But shouldn’t it also lead to a deeper understanding that there are a lot of families, in all kinds of situations beyond their control, who need help from government? Shouldn’t having a son whose illness leads to suicide open your eyes to something more than a belief that we need more money for suicide help-lines? Shouldn’t it call into question the entire winners-win/losers-lose ideology of the current Republican Party? Shouldn’t it also lead to an understanding that if we want to live in a society that provides a robust system of public support for those who need help — whether for mental illness or any of the other misfortunes that life hands out at random — we will need a government with adequate institutions and revenues to provide those things?
And that’s what I mean by “Miss America Compassion.” These Senators are like Miss America contestants, each with a “platform”: Mr. Ohio: “Adoption Assistance.” Mr. Oregon: “Suicide Prevention.” Mr. Minnesota: “Community Development.” Mr. New Mexico: “Mental Health Parity.” Mr. Pennsylvania: “Missing children” The platform is meant to show them as thoughtful, deep and independent-minded, but after the “platform segment” they return to play their obedient part in a degrading exercise that makes this country crueler and government less supportive.
It’s tiresome, yes; but that’s often the way with those who live unexamined lives. They don’t actually notice misfortune in others, so it gets their attention only when it affects them directly.
Note this doesn’t always work: a fine example is the number of US conservatives with gay children (not that being gay is a misfortune). Yet who opposes equal rights more?
I remember one who I thought was different: Paul Wellstone. Mr. Minnesota: “Tried to Leave the World Better Than He Found It for Everyone.”
Wellstone was one of the greats. He understood the connections that elude what Mark Schmitt calls Miss America conservatives – that a compassionate society cannot thrive without collective action. And that human solidarity extends beyond our own personal tragedies; that’s the definition of compassion.